Ok, I’m laughing right now. Yes, the title of my post sounds… mean? It’s not really but I’ll explain later.
I can’t stress enough the idea of being “plugged” in, specifically as a parent I’ve found during my last pregnancy how much better life as a parent can be when you’re in touch with other like minded parents. One of the first things I did upon finding out we were expecting was to download a pregnancy tracker app onto my phone. At first, I was just curious as to the progress of the growth of our little “bean”. Then I discovered the app linked me to a parenting group.
That February 2012 group changed my life. NO JOKE. I learned about modern cloth diapering, baby led weaning and a bunch of abbreviations including EBF (exclusively breast feeding). All of these stuck with me. Most importantly, EBF. I knew I would be lucky enough to stay at home with this baby, a luxury I didn’t have with my first. I knew I would be breast feeding but I didn’t know I could do it full time, 100% of the time. I had automatically assumed that when you breast feed its normal to supplement with formula.
Now, this post is not meant to be preachy. If you’ve read my post on encouragement for breastfeeding moms you’ll know that I only mean well. I am more than well aware of women who give birth to preemies who just can’t latch on, women who suffer from low or no supply, moms who have to take medication and are unable to breast feed, etc. What bothers me is an uninformed decision to not breast feed, reasons like: “I don’t want my boobs to sag” or “I don’t want to be chained to my baby”. These reasons are stupid simply because they are wrong. A quick search on medical information linking breast feeding to breast sagging will inform you that nursing has little to no effect on the sagging of breasts. Actually, you’re breasts are more likely to sag from being pregnant rather than nursing. Being chained to a baby? Well I suppose that is just how you look at it. I exclusively breast feed and I do not feel chained to my baby, I can pump and have someone else feed him but for the most part I love knowing that only I physically provide his primary source of nutrition.
I try to look at things in the larger scope of life. Babies are only babies for one year… then you’ve got a crawling-running-real-food-eating-toddler!
Yes, breast feeding is the most natural way to feed your child. No, it is not for everyone. I just wish some women would discontinue the use of bullshit reasons for not breast feeding their babies. Before you give a vain and selfish excuse for not providing your child with the best nutrition they can receive, at least do a little research 😉